Month: September 2013

Pink Hippy

I will be speaking at the Oxford Public Library, Sept 14 at 10:00 am for an organization called the Pink Hippy.  The Pink Hippy has an amazing mission connecting people (“Bosom Buddy Network”), offering tools to help anyone with a blood disorder or cancer get through this difficult time.  Please share this with any one you think would benefit or come to support those you love.  I appreciate your support.

 

Check it out:  http://www.pinkhippy.org/

 

Love and light!

Un-forgiveness Full Story

Forgiveness is a gift, a key to your personal spiritual suffering.

I recently read an article in Yoga Journal that was one of the best I ever read.  It went into a very in-depth explanation of what happens to the brain when a person is angry.  The author starts by explaining a grudge she once felt and wanted to know why it was so intense years later.  Below was her researched explanation:

Recent studies in neurophysiology describe a particular type of neuron whose function is to pick up and mirror the emotions of others—literally throwing back what someone puts out. In my experience, mirror neurons seem to be particularly adept at picking up and reacting to someone else’s unconsciously held stance of victimization. If I have a tendency to distrust you, you pick it up and throw it back to me—maybe by mirroring my distrust, maybe by keeping your distance. Thus, we create a vicious cycle and replicate negative experiences. Starting a more positive feedback loop is reason enough to do some work with forgiveness.

The article goes on to explain three levels of forgiveness, which were quite interesting and I believe true.  I was really excited about the article and wanted to share it.  I was going to just send the actual article and then I read it again.  Something jumped stirred inside me, which left me in a complete state of confusion.  So I closed my eyes took a few deep breaths and it came forward.

There is no question that it is nice to understand that there is a scientific understanding of why one may feel anger or a grudge.  Emotions that have actual peptides that mirror them, it is fascinating.  The levels of forgiveness to offer something we have all felt somewhere along the line.  However, when I read the article a second time I realized that it took me a bit backwards as it was just setting more boundaries on how we forgive, or what level of forgiveness we are currently working.

Once I just let my heart open and sent an intention for forgiveness, knowing there is no right or wrong, that there is no need for resolution, my heart warmed.  Within each person in this world there is goodness, how many layers that person has over their heart only they will know.  This can be a confusing place which is why maybe keeping it simple is so important.  So with Un-forgiveness we just don’t focus on forgiveness in a formal sense or spiritual sense we just let it be; a knowing that we are all good.  There are a number of experiences that place people on their journey, some much more difficult than others.  So just setting the intention that my light shines in your light will be enough.  If you still feel anger that may be a sign that you haven’t seen the light in yourself.  You can’t control what others believe, you can only control how you react.  Let this be a lesson that it is usually a lot easier than we think.  A simpler process is usually a light at the end of the tunnel.

Below is the article, it is a great one and just progressed my heart to open a bit more!  Peace

http://www.yogajournal.com/wisdom/2547?utm_source=wisdom&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=bulletlink&_wcsid=482CDFA6A496556BFEA42B71BF1BB2F09C50539C670ECAB1

Un-Forgiveness- oops sent on mistake

Forgiveness is a gift, a key to your personal spiritual suffering.

I recently read an article in Yoga Journal that was one of the best I ever read.  It went into a very in-depth explanation of what happens to the brain when a person is angry.  The author starts by explaining a grudge she once felt and wanted to know why it was so intense years later.  Below was her researched explanation:

Recent studies in neurophysiology describe a particular type of neuron whose function is to pick up and mirror the emotions of others—literally throwing back what someone puts out. In my experience, mirror neurons seem to be particularly adept at picking up and reacting to someone else’s unconsciously held stance of victimization. If I have a tendency to distrust you, you pick it up and throw it back to me—maybe by mirroring my distrust, maybe by keeping your distance. Thus, we create a vicious cycle and replicate negative experiences. Starting a more positive feedback loop is reason enough to do some work with forgiveness.

The article goes on to explain three levels of forgiveness, which were quite interesting and I believe true.  I was really excited about the article and wanted to share it.  I was going to just send the actual article and then I read it again.  Something jumped stirred inside me, which left me in a complete state of confusion.  So I closed my eyes took a few deep breaths and it came forward.

There is no question that it is nice to understand that there is a scientific understanding of why one may feel anger or a grudge.  Emotions that have actual peptides that mirror them, it is fascinating.  The levels of forgiveness to offer something we have all felt somewhere along the line.  However, when I read the article a second time I realized that it took me a bit backwards as it was just setting more boundaries on how we forgive, or what level of forgiveness we are currently working.

Once I just let my heart open and sent an intention for forgiveness, knowing there is no right or wrong, that there is no need for resolution, my heart warmed.  Within each person in this world there is goodness, how many layers that person has over their heart only they will know.  This can be a confusing place which is why maybe keeping it simple is so important.  So with Un-forgiveness we just don’t focus on forgiveness in a formal sense or spiritual sense we just let it be; a knowing that we are all good.  There are a number of experiences that place people on their journey, some much more difficult than others.  So just setting the intention that my light shines in your light will be enough.  If you still feel anger that may be a sign that you haven’t seen the light in yourself.  You can’t control what others believe, you can only control how you react.  Let this be a lesson that it is usually a lot easier than we think.  A simpler process is usually a light at the end of the tunnel.

Below is the article, it is a great one and just progressed my heart to open a bit more!  Peace

http://www.yogajournal.com/wisdom/2547?utm_source=wisdom&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=bulletlink&_wcsid=482CDFA6A496556BFEA42B71BF1BB2F09C50539C670ECAB1

Observational Opinion Part 2

As I sent out the post it cut off the most important half which was about the village.

I have learned that it takes a village to help evolve the human spirit.  We learn from the wisdom of those who came before us, the lessons they have learned so that we don’t have to make them ourselves.  As our society has changed the basic values have not and I believe that it is time we get back to basics.

When embracing the ideal of the village, one must have an open heart that is willing to listen, leaving your defensive posture behind, the “I knows” behind.  However, we have become a society of judgement, which has created this defensive posture to begin with anyway.   There are a  hundred paths up the mountain we are all running around trying to prove our path is the right one.  It is time to let go, but this is one of the most difficult facets of the ego.  Letting go means that when one is judging you regardless of the situation that you just let it lay before you, not giving it a chance to stick to your heart wall.  This is a challenge I work on each day as we are constantly being presented with judgement.

Judgement will always be around you, and I am certainly not suggestion you roll out the welcome mat.  However, in the spirit of evolution you learn when people are kindly trying to offer wisdom and when they are judging.  It feels different and we have all done it, we just call it an opinion.  If the intention is from the heart and not from the space of right or wrong then let it in, if not set it free.  Your journey is yours alone and there is no need to send out a memo about your progression in human evolution.  If you are walking the line of the village then you have to be ready to embrace the experience that comes from others and the wisdom to identify when it is just anothers ego making  “your journey” wrong.

Let it go, Let it go to God.

 

Many blessings,

HOlly

 

 

 

 

An observational opinon

“Not everyone will understand your journey.  That is fine as it is not their journey to make sense of…..IT IS YOURS! ”

Any time we are pushed away from our normal daily “routine”, such as vacation or a holiday, it we have created, it seems that some experience or lesson surfaces in our life.  It is a though when we let go of our patterns we see more clearly or we learn more about our life.

Last night I went onto facebook for a few moments to send some emails and was shocked at the number of posts and comments that were lighting each other up.  I am always one for a good, healthy debate, but usually feel that facebook is not the greatest forum for them.  I have noticed that through the confines of your computer we say things that we may otherwise decide is unkind, which just stirs the pot.  Somehow a computer gives people the courage to share many things they may not in person.  I find it fascinating as learning to be lovingly honest is a difficult lesson, one I practice everyday.

In this midst of all this crazy banter of right, wrong, or misunderstanding, I saw the most beautiful post….”This world will not be healed with anger and hatred for that is what has caused the damage thus far. Tolerance is the path to peace. Truth will only be revealed to those that follow this path and who have unconditional love in their heart as Christ did. It is time to lay down the weapons of intolerance and pride. Be a light and let your love shine forth.” Even though I believe each comment came from good intentions, this one post stuck out and became a beacon of light, a reminder that opinions are not right or wrong.  Actually opinions are just judgement wrapped in a beautiful bow as we all want to honor what others believe.  However, that is just the question:  Through our opinions do we honor what another believes?  Or are we loading our verbal arrows in preparation for the next shot, the next opportunity to blast away.

It is really great conversation when you can discuss your thoughts/opinions about important life issues.  However, it usually turns into a I am right/you are wrong scenario, which only leaves a bad taste.  This is a shame because discussing things such as parenting, politics, medicine will only bring us closer