Month: May 2013

Mother’s Day. Third try to post! Sorry

Happy Mother’s Day

Posted on May 20, 2013 by 

It has been weeks that I have sat on this blog trying to find the most inspiring words to write for the day of the Mother.  I can’t believe what a challenge it has been as I know that there are not enough or the right words to describe my mother or her heart.  I have mostly learned by watching her as she can sometimes be a woman of few words, but large statements.  However, she taught me the most import ideals in life:  Love and Forgiveness.

As I thought further about the mother and the parallels to life, I thought about the many roles a mother will establish in her lifetime.  So really it is not the label “Mother” that is important as I have met many nurturing woman who have not physically been mothers, but have played this role in many ways.  As I sought to really understand the ideal of being a mom I realized that in the days of the village everyone was the mother.  It is about throwing down the label and getting to the core of the role which is love.

A mother will demonstrate love not teach it.

A mother will offer forgiveness to anyone as there is no space to hold on to it.

A mother will offer friendship in an appropriate evolution.

A mother will punish when all else fails.

A mother is magic, knowing exactly what to say and how to say it.

A mother expresses emotion and creates a stage to release.

A Mother is FULL OF LOVE.

If you know anyone that fits this description, even if they do not have children wish them a blessing on this sacred day.  As these are actions that we need to become more connected to each other.  This got me thinking as it is not a secret that we have become very disconnected from one another.

It was really brought to light the past two weeks as I thought long and hard about the day that honors the mother.  I wondered why beyond just technology we have become so fast passed, so disconnected?  Even in the light of tragedy the connectedness and love is short-lived.  I am not sure I have the answer to this, but I know in the past two weeks as my smile fell upon those I saw throughout my day that it was not always returned.  I no longer am a masked woman so my heart is always open to a conversation with a stranger.  I chalked it up to the idea that we do not know what that person has gone through that day and leave it in peace.

In the light of reflection I really can say I “pondered” on why we are so estranged to each other.  Why we have created so many boundaries and labels which cause suffering.  We must be available to open and receive.  My offering to you on mother’s day are two pieces of advice that have been giving to me in love.

Everywhere you go people are on their phones texting or searching for an App that will cut out human interaction which is perceived as saving more time.  People are so out of balance with technology that many are living their lives third party to their facebook page or iphone. As I said I believe in the greatness that technology has brought into our lives, but with everything we must have balance.  I question if we have balance or have we just created this constant search to find relaxation.

We move so fast throughout the day, we are overstimulated with noise, lights, and then we take what time we would have to balance the day with posting on facebook.  I am not making this wrong I am simply pointing out that we are losing our ability to connect with other humans because we are forgetting to live consciously in the moment and hiding behind a computer.

I offer you this gift that was challenged to me many years ago, when I first started teaching yoga.  Take one day in your week and observe and acts of kindness or acts that felt rude/ disconnected.  Either write down these acts throughout the day, if you wait till the end of the day you will probably forget which is an entirely different lesson as we see that many things just don’t matter anyway.

Wait 2 days and go back to see if you created that interaction that developed the act of kindness.  Did your fast pace, iphone, or facebook post create a reaction that was less than pleasant??  Find the root of each action with this you will know if it is time to set limits to your phone because you need to develop a new relationship with quietness.  Do you need to be more open to others around you?  Or are you just exactly where you need to be?

My second gift is from my friend Wendy who gave me the book “The Parent’s Tao Te Ching”.  I believe everyone should read this very short interpretation of the Tao, but that is just my opinion.

One of the best excerpts is The Energy of the Universe.  God’s Child.

Your children are not mere lumps of clay

waiting for your expert hands.

They are the very energy of God and will become what they will become.

They are sacred beings.

If you tamper with them you will make everyone miserable.

They will find success,

and failure.

They will be happy,

and sad.

They will delight you,

and disappoint you.

They will be safe,

and at great risk.

They will live,

and they will die.

Stay at the center of your own soul.

There is simply nothing else you can do.

Allow our need to control and shape our children be released as we embrace the guidance received from God.

I hope you all had an amazing day 2 weeks ago and I hope you can offer some insight or thoughts to the sacred mother!

Much love and light!

Holly

“Being a mother is one of the highest salaried jobs, since each payment is pure love.”

Happy Mother’s Day

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It has been weeks that I have sat on this blog trying to find the most inspiring words to write for the day of the Mother.  I can’t believe what a challenge it has been as I know that there are not enough or the right words to describe my mother or her heart.  I have mostly learned by watching her as she can sometimes be a woman of few words, but large statements.  However, she taught me the most import ideals in life:  Love and Forgiveness.

As I thought further about the mother and the parallels to life, I thought about the many roles a mother will establish in her lifetime.  So really it is not the label “Mother” that is important as I have met many nurturing woman who have not physically been mothers, but have played this role in many ways.  As I sought to really understand…

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Happy Mother’s Day

It has been weeks that I have sat on this blog trying to find the most inspiring words to write for the day of the Mother.  I can’t believe what a challenge it has been as I know that there are not enough or the right words to describe my mother or her heart.  I have mostly learned by watching her as she can sometimes be a woman of few words, but large statements.  However, she taught me the most import ideals in life:  Love and Forgiveness.

As I thought further about the mother and the parallels to life, I thought about the many roles a mother will establish in her lifetime.  So really it is not the label “Mother” that is important as I have met many nurturing woman who have not physically been mothers, but have played this role in many ways.  As I sought to really understand the ideal of being a mom I realized that in the days of the village everyone was the mother.  It is about throwing down the label and getting to the core of the role which is love.

A mother will demonstrate love not teach it.

A mother will offer forgiveness to anyone as there is no space to hold on to it.

A mother will offer friendship in an appropriate evolution.

A mother will punish when all else fails.

A mother is magic, knowing exactly what to say and how to say it.

A mother expresses emotion and creates a stage to release.

A Mother is FULL OF LOVE.

If you know anyone that fits this description, even if they do not have children wish them a blessing on this sacred day.  As these are actions that we need to become more connected to each other.  This got me thinking as it is not a secret that we have become very disconnected from one another.

It was really brought to light the past two weeks as I thought long and hard about the day that honors the mother.  I wondered why beyond just technology we have become so fast passed, so disconnected?  Even in the light of tragedy the connectedness and love is short-lived.  I am not sure I have the answer to this, but I know in the past two weeks as my smile fell upon those I saw throughout my day that it was not always returned.  I no longer am a masked woman so my heart is always open to a conversation with a stranger.  I chalked it up to the idea that we do not know what that person has gone through that day and leave it in peace.

In the light of reflection I really can say I “pondered” on why we are so estranged to each other.  Why we have created so many boundaries and labels which cause suffering.  We must be available to open and receive.  My offering to you on mother’s day are two pieces of advice that have been giving to me in love.

Everywhere you go people are on their phones texting or searching for an App that will cut out human interaction which is perceived as saving more time.  People are so out of balance with technology that many are living their lives third party to their facebook page or iphone. As I said I believe in the greatness that technology has brought into our lives, but with everything we must have balance.  I question if we have balance or have we just created this constant search to find relaxation.

We move so fast throughout the day, we are overstimulated with noise, lights, and then we take what time we would have to balance the day with posting on facebook.  I am not making this wrong I am simply pointing out that we are losing our ability to connect with other humans because we are forgetting to live consciously in the moment and hiding behind a computer.

I offer you this gift that was challenged to me many years ago, when I first started teaching yoga.  Take one day in your week and observe and acts of kindness or acts that felt rude/ disconnected.  Either write down these acts throughout the day, if you wait till the end of the day you will probably forget which is an entirely different lesson as we see that many things just don’t matter anyway.

Wait 2 days and go back to see if you created that interaction that developed the act of kindness.  Did your fast pace, iphone, or facebook post create a reaction that was less than pleasant??  Find the root of each action with this you will know if it is time to set limits to your phone because you need to develop a new relationship with quietness.  Do you need to be more open to others around you?  Or are you just exactly where you need to be?

My second gift is from my friend Wendy who gave me the book “The Parent’s Tao Te Ching”.  I believe everyone should read this very short interpretation of the Tao, but that is just my opinion.

One of the best excerpts is The Energy of the Universe.  God’s Child.

Your children are not mere lumps of clay

waiting for your expert hands.

They are the very energy of God and will become what they will become.

They are sacred beings.

If you tamper with them you will make everyone miserable.

They will find success,

and failure.

They will be happy,

and sad.

They will delight you,

and disappoint you.

They will be safe,

and at great risk.

They will live,

and they will die.

Stay at the center of your own soul.

There is simply nothing else you can do.

Allow our need to control and shape our children be released as we embrace the guidance received from God.

I hope you all had an amazing day 2 weeks ago and I hope you can offer some insight or thoughts to the sacred mother!

Much love and light!

Holly

“Being a mother is one of the highest salaried jobs, since each payment is pure love.”

The real deal

“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh

 

Last week I was met with a flu that challenged my immune system to its fullest extent.  I had a fever of 103.7 and felt like I had gotten rolled over somehow!  It was tough, but on many levels it brought great excitement to see what my body was doing.  It was reacting the exact way it should with a fever, with sweating, no appetite; my body was working.  As I went in to get my vitals taken, I immediately felt a rise in heartbeat.  I was stressed and concerned as this was my first challenge since the transplant.  I sat down for the nurse to take my blood pressure and it was high.  I asked her to give me 1 minute.  I closed my eyes and envisioned my breath going deep into the back of my lungs, slowing down the flow of my blood, giving it a chance to take with it all that would cause this affect.  Following my breath into my belly, then to my upper chest I could feel it moving in several different directions, filling pockets that had not been met that day.  Finally, filling my entire back body (back of lungs which is where the majority of our lung space exists).

I then opened my eyes and she rechecked the blood pressure as she noticed my heart rate retreated right into normal range.  “Wow, you need to teach me how to do that.” said the nurse as my pressure was in perfect range.  That was the best I felt all day.  It is amazing what a gift our breath really is and how much health can be brought forward when we relearn how to breathe.  This is also an opportunity to go to deeper places in your connection with spirit.

During each yoga class I always focus on breath.  It is so crucial to bring our awareness back to a space that honors the very life force that keeps us alert and alive.  Prana in sanskrit means life force or vitality, yama means to extend or stretch.  Sharing the ideal that this life force is an extension of our always moving vitality.

Our breath is something that most people do not think twice about during the day or night, unless they are having a problem.  Breathing is such a subconscious act that most of us have forgotten the importance of doing it properly.  I can not begin to share how many students have thought how silly when I ask is your breathing being maximized?

We have become shallow breathers or chest breathers due to the significant amount of stress that we invite into our world.  Much like we have lost the art of eating slowly, enjoying our food as we are rushing to the next thing.

Our breath is directly connected to our consciousness and immediately reflects our thoughts and feelings. When we are relaxed and calm we breathe slowly, evenly and deeply into the bigger, bottom part of our lungs. This is called abdominal breathing or belly breathing. Our lungs are shaped like pears – small at the top and big at the bottom. When we breathe into the bottom of our lungs we get much more oxygen from each breath because the lungs are bigger and there are more blood vessels in this large part of the lungs. We use our diaphragm muscle to take deep breaths. The diaphragm is between your chest and abdominal area and in contracts and pulls down on the lungs to bring air in and relaxes and pushes up to expel air out of the lungs. When we are breathing in this way out tummy expands when we inhale and falls when we exhale. Our shoulders and upper chest do not move.

The moment we become anxious, worried, frightened, stressed, alarmed or feel threatened in any way our breathing changes. The diaphragm becomes rigid, and we begin breathing in the upper, smaller part of our lungs. Our breath becomes uneven, shallow, rapid and often we hold our breath as well. This can happen whether there is an external danger or just from thoughts and feelings in our inner world.

As you become more aware of your breath you will begin to notice how even a troubling thought can cause your breath to change.  There are so many events that can cause a shift in your breath which is why it is so important to re-learn how to breath properly.  Many will think well I can just take a deep breath as I see this happen I witness shoulders move toward the ears and this deep breath is being taken from the chest.  At some point in time we all have become the chest breather.  It is life changing to spend 2 minutes a day feeling the strength and liveliness that comes from a full belly breath.  Watch a baby breathe, you will be amazed how far their little belly extends.

As their are many breathing techniques available to all of us, start with the belly breath.  Remember your lungs are muscular in nature and need a work out too!

The goal should be to breathe this way all of the time.

Here are the step-by-step instructions:

Sit in a chair, stand, or lie on your back. Just begin to bring awareness to relaxing or releasing any tension around the jaw, shoulders, and neck. Try to calm your mind. Forget about what you’re going to make for dinner tonight, the emails you still have to respond to, and the long to-do list that you have created at lunch.  As thoughts creep into your mind, don’t force them away just know that they will be there when you are done and gently send them away.

 How to do it:

Proper posture gets air into your lungs and helps energy flow through your body.  Sit up straight, imagining a string lifting up your chest. You should feel the area between your chest and your navel lengthen.  As you improve your posture, you may find your muscles tensing up, especially around the abdomen. Consciously try to release any tension from your body.

Place one hand flat against the abdomen, your thumb should be around your navel, and breathe in through your nose at an even rate.  Allow your abdomen to expand, rather than your upper chest. You should feel the hand on your abdomen being pushed away from your body as your abdomen rises.

Inhale through your nose, a slow count of three and exhale out your mouth a slow count of six.  Let your breath be free from judgment and completely uninhibited.  Again, count silently. Exhalation should take about twice as long as inhalation and you should feel a stillness in your body that is calming and welcomed.

 Here are a few other exercises to try:

1.  One minute breath

Inhale a count of 20 seconds

Hold breath for 20 seconds

Exhale for 20 seconds

Start off using a count of 8 or 10 working your way up to 20 seconds

2.  The 4-7-8

This exercise is requires you to sit with your back straight with the tip of your tongue against the ridge of tissue just behind your upper front teeth.  You will be exhaling through your mouth around your tongue.

Exhale completely through your mouth making a whoosh sound.

Close your mouth inhale through your nose for a count of 4.

Hold your breath for a count of 7.

Exhale completely through your mouth making a whoosh sound.

3.  Stimulating breath

The Stimulating Breath is adapted from a yogic breathing technique.  Its aim is to raise vital energy and increase alertness.

Inhale and exhale rapidly through your nose, keeping your mouth closed, but relaxed.  Notice that you are breathing into your belly not your chest. Your breaths in and out should be equal in duration, but as short as possible.  This is a noisy exercise that offers quick movement of the diaphragm. Try for three in/out breath cycles per second, breathing normal after each cycle.  If done properly, you will feel invigorated, reaching a heightened state of awareness.

 

There are many other breathing exercises that will help you regain a relationship with breath.  But just starting with a full breath will bring great change and energy to your path.

 

Much love and light!